Is she using me?
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CNorris (18 - 24 yrs) - January 24, 2010
I've been with this girl for about 6 months, at first we went out for the first week but then she only wanted to be friends so weve been doin that, which didn't make me happy but I like her so ok. but even as friends we hold hands and kiss sometiems. Last night were talking and she mentions that shes mad at some guy that stood her up on drinks.
Is she using me? What is going on with her?
Answers
Dave (30 - 34 yrs) - January 24, 2010
She sees you as a friend and is keeping you around as her backup guy. This is not where you want to be, I'd either press the issue about becoming involved or tell her you're done with the kissing and hand-holding and move on to another girl. Otherwise you'll always be the nice guy she can talk to and cuddle with between guys that really interest her.
michelle said:
right on...thats correction funny how both sexes do that...it is not moral correct what so ever..i couldnt do that to a sweetheart guy...no touching..
she need to come clean or cut the connection...something..but its hard to do as a girl...usually will just stop messaging the guy back to stop communication*..hoply he will get the hint...sorry the honest truth.
shell*
right on...thats correction funny how both sexes do that...it is not moral correct what so ever..i couldnt do that to a sweetheart guy...no touching..
she need to come clean or cut the connection...something..but its hard to do as a girl...usually will just stop messaging the guy back to stop communication*..hoply he will get the hint...sorry the honest truth.
shell*
Jack (18 - 24 yrs) - January 25, 2010
mmmm m dave is well wrong you need to open this up sounds like good sex all around to me ; )friends with benefits! go out with her as "friends" then seduce her but make sure she is NOT drunk or it will all be over! then just date others urself i was with a girl like this for about 4 months before we both found someone ells called it back to "just" friends and then after are other relationships where over we started back up again shes not using you shes just looking for a good time!
Dave said:
Hehe, well I guess that's another way of looking at it.
Hehe, well I guess that's another way of looking at it.
michelle (18 - 24 yrs) - January 25, 2010
yes its the friend factor...im sorry but girl usually knows with in the first 30 seconds of meeting the male...if theres a connection or not? if its been 6 months then Your a (friend for good.)
shell86*
shell86*
CNorris said:
I know your right I think I'm worried that she will cut off the friendship if I push the other stuff. I really like her, tho I'd rather kill it then just be friends.
I know your right I think I'm worried that she will cut off the friendship if I push the other stuff. I really like her, tho I'd rather kill it then just be friends.
able (25 - 29 yrs) - January 28, 2010
If you want to date her blow her off, she will like you more for it.
Andressa said:
haha sadly that's true, but the only thing she will be wanting is what she can't have and once she has it... she's gone.
haha sadly that's true, but the only thing she will be wanting is what she can't have and once she has it... she's gone.
Andressa (18 - 24 yrs) - April 28, 2010
If she was into you she would never tell you she wants to be friends then tell you about guys she was going to date! I beleive she is using you for emotional comfort or a 'backup guy'. You need to make it clear to her that you're not okay with it. Tell her you are intrested in her but if she wants to be just friends then that is all you will be. No kissing and definatley don't buy her anything! I suggest if she agrees to just be friends, start telling her about dates YOU went on and how gorgeous the girls were ;) and watch out because of her jealousy I'll bet you after you tell her this she'll want to be more than just friends but her feeling aren't sincere. Human natures preety strange =P
