In Love with my BF's BFF
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Confused (18 - 24 yrs) - April 18, 2010
My bf and me have been going out for bout 3 months an his best friend spends a lot of time with us. Over the past month weve started talking an texting and I'm in love with him now and I know he has feelings for me to. How can I make it work without crushign my bf or ruining there friendship?
Answers
Andressa (18 - 24 yrs) - April 19, 2010
There is no way to do that. Either way you are going to hurt the guy. And as far as there friendship goes that's out of your hands. It is up to them on how they handle the situation. I suggest you just tell your bf that you no longer have the same feelings for him and that you are sorry. It is much worse to drag him along knowing that you have feelings for someone else.
confused said:
I know your right, I hate the idea of hurting my bf cuz hes such a nice person. I'll work up to it this weekend thx for the note.
I know your right, I hate the idea of hurting my bf cuz hes such a nice person. I'll work up to it this weekend thx for the note.
Dave (30 - 34 yrs) - April 20, 2010
I agree with Andressa, you at least need to break it off with your boyfriend. If you start dating his best friend it will most likely have a big impact on their friendship but that's something you need to discuss with the friend before you announce anything.
lives with integrity (25 - 29 yrs) - April 22, 2010
there isn't a way to do both in my opinion. If they were really friends though, the bff wouldn't ever do that to his friend. That being said, regardless of whether you to hook up or not, if your with someone and wanting to be with someone else then you should end the relationship. Honesty isn't always the easiest route to take, but take the high road at least tell the guy whats going on. You don't have to go into extreme detail of why your not into him anymore, but don't ignore it. You'll end up just being tempted to cheat on him.
confused said:
ima tell him this weekend, feel so terrible about the whole thing! I don't blame my bf's friend, its not like he set out to seduce me but we fell in love anywya. neither of us is sure what to do after i break it off.
ima tell him this weekend, feel so terrible about the whole thing! I don't blame my bf's friend, its not like he set out to seduce me but we fell in love anywya. neither of us is sure what to do after i break it off.
