How do I know if the girl isn't playing with me?
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James Dean (18 - 24 yrs) - July 20, 2010
I dated a girl for about 7 months, we broke up and stayed as friends for a little while, then started talking again, but it took awhile before going out again officially...we broke up again, and she said she can only be friends, but hopes that we work things out later in the "future", she prolly has been talking to other people, but nothing serious...and more recently, we talked about the problems we had and what needed to be changed, next day she asks if we could go out on a date sometime...Im a little confused and don't want to just be there just as someone when she doesn't hav any one. One helpful piece, she said she felt like I didnt trust her..
Update (July 20)
James Dean
I dated a girl for about 7 months, we broke up and stayed as friends for a little while, then started talking again, but it took awhile before going out again officially...we broke up again, and she said she can only be friends, but hopes that we work things out later in the "future", she prolly has been talking to other people, but nothing serious...and more recently, we talked about the problems we had and what needed to be changed, next day she asks if we could go out on a date sometime...Im a little confused and don't want to just be there just as someone when she doesn't have any one. One helpful piece, she said she felt like I didnt trust her...
Answers
eli (18 - 24 yrs) - July 20, 2010
sounds like she kept breaking up with you or wuz it mutual? sounds like u still like her and want to go out but r worried bout gtting hurt. have a talk and see if u 2 can find out why u keep breaking up before trying again.
James Dean said:
well honestly...she broke up wit me cuz she says i dnt trust her n we had lots of fight about some things...we actually recently talked about the trust issue n so forth, talked with me and keeps mentioning how people say im a good man n am hard to come by, and how she is lonely, feels like she admitting something, but is playing it tough...dnt really kno
well honestly...she broke up wit me cuz she says i dnt trust her n we had lots of fight about some things...we actually recently talked about the trust issue n so forth, talked with me and keeps mentioning how people say im a good man n am hard to come by, and how she is lonely, feels like she admitting something, but is playing it tough...dnt really kno
Jez (under 18 yrs) - August 28, 2010
So the times she broke up with you, is because she thought you didn't trust her? And because she thought you didn't trust her, you two got into a lot of fights? Well, it seems like she has trust issues. Before getting back together with her, tell her to either talk to you about her trust issues, or tell her to go to a professional. Because, as long as she has those issues, she won't be able to have a healthy relationship with any man.
