From sex to friends
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Rose (44+ yrs) - September 22, 2010
Been having sex with friend for 6 years, started out just once a month and now once a week most weeks. We are friends that have benefits and now he wants to be friends and date other people, we have only been on a picinic together not really a date, never has wanted to date me. He said he will not divorce me as a friend but he is not sure about the sex and dating other people. I want to continue with what we are doing and told him he could date if thats what he wants. We are at a stand still. Should I wait him out or should I try to reconnect to him in a different way. I don't want to lose him, I care for him and want to date him myself. Is this an impossible thing?
Answers
Dave (35 - 39 yrs) - September 22, 2010
If you've been intimate for 6 years and he's never wanted to date you then I don't think the two of you are going to happen. He's right not to be having sex with you while dating other people, why don't you move on to a guy who does want to date you. I'm pretty sure they'll be happy to supply the sex part too. :)
rose said:
I know you are right. It is so hard to move on, especially when you are so use to someone and you care about them. I knew the answer all along but I guess I was hoping for a different response.
I know you are right. It is so hard to move on, especially when you are so use to someone and you care about them. I knew the answer all along but I guess I was hoping for a different response.
Randominity (25 - 29 yrs) - October 18, 2010
one-sided relationships suck... and it seems that is the case here. it sounds like you have your emotional life wrapped up in it and he doesn't. find someone that is capable of being emotionally involved with you
