My bf keeps lying to me
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Ali (18 - 24 yrs) - March 20, 2010
he lies to me about little things that in the long run mean nothing. ive talked to him about so many times telling him i don't care if he tells me something and i don't like it. that i won't get mad at him. i really need some help here, i don't want to have to give him the last option.
Update (March 21)
its not just the lying to me that bugs me,its that he asked me to prom is in may and i asked if he would get all the info so we could go 2gether and its almost the end of march and all he says when i ask him is its in may no duh all proms r. he so lazy sometimes and it makes me mad that he just can't be more mature about anything really
Answers
GoBruins (18 - 24 yrs) - March 20, 2010
he could have problems with self confidence and is doing this to seem more perfect than he is so you won't leave him? A friend of mine's bf did this for a while but stopped after they settled in and bunches of fights. Make him regret it when u ketch him lol
Dave (30 - 34 yrs) - March 21, 2010
Lying and ignoring things that are important to you isn't a good sign. I agree with GoBruins that you should really get on him when he lies so that he'll realize it's more painful to lie than tell the truth. I don't know what to say about the laziness, some people are like that by nature while others become lazy about a relationship when it's not a priority for them.
Ginger (18 - 24 yrs) - March 28, 2010
I think ultimately it will show you how he is going to act as an adult, and if he is already this way then you might as well give the last option. But you have to be ready to give the last option. If you end it you have to stick with it and not get back with him. If you do, your choice to end it because he lied will never stick and he'll just do it again. You'll have to fully be ready to end it. Its not you he's afraid of telling the truth, he lies for his own reasons outside of you so don't ever feel like you are to blame. Be strong and independent but not rude, do your own thing and when he wonders why you aren't giving him attention tell him why. Say its getting old, you like him, don't want to leave him but you aren't putting up with the lies. Just be strong and know what you deserve. You'll find a lot of guys like this and worse, so practice respect for yourself now.
