Is it worth the wait?
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Clueless Ryan (under 18 yrs) - June 27, 2010
I really love this one girl, her name is "H", but she is interested in another guy, who doesn't like her back. She said after she gets a definate no answer from him, she will try to move on and that I will be the first person she'll give a chance to date... but it's been six months. There's this other girl who likes me... "M", and I sorta like her, but i feel bad because she's me second choice, and she deserves better than that. So, I don't know if I should wait for "H" and be happy, or severely heartbroken, or go for "M", and regret it if "H" gives me a chance... I could always break up with "M" then... but I'd just be using her to have a short Companion... What should I do?
Answers
Dave (35 - 39 yrs) - June 27, 2010
Go for it with M, life's too short to be sitting around waiting for this other girl to get rejected by the guy she really wants. Have fun and try to put her out of your mind. You may have more fun than you thought with M and H will probably come after you anyway because you'll be more attractive when you're not waiting around for her. Girls don't want a guy they can have anytime they want, that's why she's chasing after this other guy. If H comes after you later you can decide if you're into still into her.
Clueless Ryan said:
That's what I thought at first too, but no girl deserves to be my second best...
That's what I thought at first too, but no girl deserves to be my second best...
Dave (35 - 39 yrs) - June 30, 2010
You're going to spend time with plenty of girls in your life and they won't all be your #1 choice. Get out and have fun with a bunch of different girls, it beats sitting at home and waiting for the one that might date you if the guy she really likes won't take her out. Besides, this other girl's not asking you for an engagement ring, go out with her and see what happens. Once you get to know her a little better she may become your #1.
All I know is that I've been where you're sitting (long time ago) and in hindsight wish I would have lightened up a little and spent time with plenty of girls instead of fixating on the perfect one. It's your life though, you have to live it the way you want. Good luck.
cassie (35 - 39 yrs) - July 1, 2010
ryan, if you don't want "M" because she is your second choice, then why would you want to be someone else's second pick? you're still really young - why not take option C and find your #1 who might be just as into you. doesn't mean you can't hang out w/ "M" in the meantime, but just be honest and let her know you're not looking for anything serious (because you're not that into her, but maybe spare her that part)
