The day came when the risk it took to remain tightly closed in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to bloom.

That said, I have some close female friends that have been great at helping me understand a bit what women think about when dating. As I said I have been told many times I come across as very nice. And then that women get suspicious of that. Like your title even. Now I am no shrink, but even based on my own perspective, is it possible that it actually working out scares you? I would say that if you are at a point where you are ready to open up and let someone in, you like this guy and he words and actions are lining up - give him a chance. I would hate to think that there are women that liked me but were worried I was not who I appeared to be without taking the time to find out. But that said - still keep your eyes open and keep evaluating. Trust you gut but try to make sure it is based on real observations and not something you are overlaying onto the situation. don't make him pay for their mistakes.... Just MHO.....