Body Language that Shows She's Interested

We've all been there, just walking along minding our own business and then BAM! there she is. Maybe it's across a room, or the park, or the coffee shop and we pull up short and think "Whoa, she's amazing. Could she be interested in me?" I have no idea, but you might if you learn a few things about body language and how it communicates a girl's true feelings. Here's a list of basic things that they may do when they come across a guy who interests them. Don't zero in on a single item she did and use it to convince yourself she's interested. It's more about noticing multiple signs to figure out if you’re making progress or not. By the way, even though a lot of body language is the same for both men and women I'm focusing this post on women's signals because let's face it girls, if he came over to talk to you, he's interested.

Posture
Whether she's standing on the other side of the room or sitting across from you at a table, if she straightens up she might be interested. Men and women tend to improve their posture when trying to attract members of the opposite sex. With women it has the effect of thrusting out their chests, making their breasts more prominent. That's right, girls unconsciously do this to show off their boobs. That's ok, guys do it too for similar reasons, we just don't look as good when we do.

A Long Look or the Double Take
When a girl sees a guy she finds unattractive, she'll glance over once and never look back. Unless he's REALLY unattractive and then maybe that's worth another look or two. If you're not unusually ugly look for a quick double-take after she first notices you, a longer-than-normal look, or furtive glances from a lowered gaze – these all indicate attraction.

Dilated Pupils
Look into her eyes and see if her pupils are dilated (larger than normal). Don't try to get technical, just notice them and let your gut provide the answer. If they're big then she likes what she sees (that's you!). Unlike fake smiles and cutesy talk that can be used to make you THINK she's interested, pupils can't be controlled and are a great way to get the real story. Before celebrating, just remember that environmental factors like dim lighting and alcohol will also cause this reaction.

Playing with Hair
Everybody tries to stand up a little straighter and look more appealing when we see attractive members of the opposite sex. Playing with her hair is an unconscious form of grooming that shows she's trying to be more attractive to you. This is good.

Mirroring
Mirroring is when one person copies the gestures and behaviors of someone that they're speaking with to put them at ease and make them more willing to open up. Which means if a girl is mirroring you then she wants you to be relaxed and communicative and enjoying yourself. Look for things like body movements (hand gestures, posture, crossed legs), facial expressions, breathing, and even tone of voice and suddenly-developed accents.

Lip Licking
When people get sexually excited, our mouths get dry. It's biology. So if you're speaking with a girl and she keeps licking her lips, keep it up, you're doing something right.

Pointing
No, she's not going to point a finger at you when she decides she's interested, but she will point with her body. Women tend to point their bodies directly at men who interest them with their belly button (or squared shoulders), legs, and feet. If she isn't facing directly at you, it means that you're not capturing her full attention at the moment. If she was never really facing right at you then maybe you're not her type, but if she's been slowly drifting then you might want to think about switching topics or trying something new because you’re losing her!

Leaning
When a girl leans toward you when SHE's speaking it means that she wants you to understand what she's saying, and when she leans in while YOU're speaking it means...well, you get the idea, leaning is good. Of course, if it's loud and she has an annoyed look on her face, maybe she just can’t hear you.

Eye Contact
This is different than eye contact from across the room, this is more about eye contact while you're talking. You want her to be engaged in the conversation, so any prolonged and consistent looking around the room is not a good thing. She may be shy, but more often than not it means she's looking for more interesting things to occupy her attention or checking the room for other guys.