To Gain Pleasure or Avoid Pain?

I was reading a great post about taking risks and really going for it in your relationshisp over at datingadvicefromagirl and it reminded me of something I learned a long time ago. I had listened to some of those Tony Robbins self-improvement tapes, most of which was the rah rah stuff we all know on an intellectual level, but one thing really stood out: his point that so many of our actions are governed by the desire to avoid pain rather than gain pleasure. This is the reason so many of us avoid risks, from approaching that cute girl at the park to opening up and being completely honest about your feelings with a boyfriend or girlfriend. It's this fear of rejection and humiliation, rather than considering the amazing rewards that may come from taking the risk. So, the next time you feel like doing something but are hobbled by fear, just say "Screw it!" What's the worst that can happen anyway? Someone will hate you for being passionate and having feelings? Well then screw them too! Be yourself, act from the heart without reservation or shame, and life will reward you for it.