How do you get out of friend zone
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C-G (18 - 24 yrs) - February 10, 2010
i'v been best friends with this girl for 3 years and 4 mounths but i want to be more she never seemed to like me that way and when i brought it up she said she was intressted a 1st but then i "went to friend mode" how do i fix this? i feel like someone hit me in the gut with a hammer every time i love into her eyes i'v never thought love could hurt this much
Update (February 10)
"look into her eyes" srry
Answers
Dave (30 - 34 yrs) - February 11, 2010
Hehe, I like the typo, not too hard to guess what's on your mind. About your question, getting out of the friend zone isn't easy. You're there because she sees you as non-threatening, easy to hang out with, easy to understand, someone she can confide in, and all that other boring stuff. If you want to change the way she sees you, you'll need to change the way you make her feel and that means being willing to lose the friendship. The good part is that she was attracted to you in the first place so it's not a physical issue, you just need to stop making her feel so relaxed and comfortable. I'd say don't make the effort to spend as much time with her and let her work at the relationship more. When you are together do things that couples might do like concerts, hanging out at the beach around sunset, or going out for a few drinks. A drink or two might shift the way she sees you too.
C-G said:
thank you vary much this helps alot! :)
thank you vary much this helps alot! :)
Andressa (18 - 24 yrs) - April 28, 2010
Are you sure she wants to be more than friends? That is the main thing you have to know and once you know that, don't worry! She wants what you want! Don't mess it up by being a shy guy because she might think you're not interested. Go for it! If it dosen't work out it's better knowing you tried instead of, "What if".








