How do I love him again?
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OB (18 - 24 yrs) - February 18, 2010
My bf and me have been going out for a few yrs and lately it feels like a switch turned off an I don't feel the same way anymre but he's the greatest guy and I used to love him like crazy. Is this a phase? How do I turn it back on agin?
Answers
mary (25 - 29 yrs) - February 19, 2010
Life is too short to spend it with some one you dont love. I went out with a guy for 6 years and for the last two we really didnt love each other but it was easier to stay together than to face breaking up. If you are meant to be together you will prob get back together if your not meant to be together then maybe you'll meet your soul mate
OB said:
Thx mary, i'm confused cuz it happened fast and i used to feel so strongly about him. I thought if i stuck it out things woud go back to the way they were but its been a month and not working. Your prob right that i should break up w him but i'm also scared to make a huge mistake.
Thx mary, i'm confused cuz it happened fast and i used to feel so strongly about him. I thought if i stuck it out things woud go back to the way they were but its been a month and not working. Your prob right that i should break up w him but i'm also scared to make a huge mistake.
Dave (30 - 34 yrs) - February 19, 2010
I don't think you can turn feelings on and off because you want to. Since you've gone out for a few years I agree that you should stick with it to see if it's a phase, but you need to break up with him if things don't change.
sean (18 - 24 yrs) - March 4, 2010
Love is not a feeling it is a commitment. If you are looking for a relationship that always feels good you won't find it, you will just move from guy to guy in vain. When Jesus was nearing crucifixion, the planned way for us as sinners to be reconciled to God, He asked the Father for an alternative... but there was none. He stayed faithful to us and paid our debt in His death and resurrection. The apostle Paul commands men to love their wives with this kind of commitment, and wives to do likewise in submission to them as the head who has earned them.
Andressa (18 - 24 yrs) - April 28, 2010
I would talk to him about it. Tell him how you're feeling and see how he feels also. Maybe suggest going on a little vacation or romantic spot you two used to go to. Before giving up atleast tell him how you are feeling and try to make things work. In the end if they don't just be very honest with him and if you are afraid of making a mistake just tell him. Tell him you are confused and just need some time for yourself.
