Ive got a bf,but two of my friends i have still like me?
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Alison (18 - 24 yrs) - August 17, 2010
ok i have a bf,two close guys who are close friends of mine,like me as more then a friend ive told them both that i don't like them that way.
both my friends are over all nice guys.
jj- is a good guy hes ok looking but he seems,but can be a bit know it all sometimes,and even if u do something sometimes he'll redo it.he's kidda like a perfectist.and has a big ego.
jirrid- is a nice guy but sometimes i get worried to be cause when he gets mad well it scares me abit.he's very modest and does not get anrgy easliy.
both my friends are over all nice guys.
jj- is a good guy hes ok looking but he seems,but can be a bit know it all sometimes,and even if u do something sometimes he'll redo it.he's kidda like a perfectist.and has a big ego.
jirrid- is a nice guy but sometimes i get worried to be cause when he gets mad well it scares me abit.he's very modest and does not get anrgy easliy.
jj had a girlfriend and would contestly call and text me.both are single now and i think they both still have romantic feeling for me. what should i do i really just want to me friends with them.but don't want to hurt them and somehow break are very good friendship.
ps all of us are alduts
Answers
Cindy (18 - 24 yrs) - September 2, 2010
The only thing you can do and even though it sucks, is to tell them you aren't interested. Literally sit down and talk to them and be like look your friendship means the world to me which is why I'd rather keep you as a friend then be a romantic partner. Also if you have a boyfriends like you said you do then tell them they should respect that and not bother you with it. Tell them you are flattered they care about you but that friendships like theirs are hard to find and they are to important to risk throwing away. It might be awkward but let them know that the reason you are outright telling them is because you care about them as friends, if you didn't you would ignore the problem.
Trust me I know its hard I dealt with a big problem like this with my previous guy best friend but it is doable and we are still very good friends. Only reason he isn't my guy best friend anymore is because my boyfriend of a year is.
Good luck:)
